Remorse

Happy Home & Family Life Wednesday. Let's get heavy this week. 

As most of you know, I am getting married this year. (That is weird to type.



I have been making lots of wedding decisions. 


Flowers. 

Bridesmaids Dresses. 

Decor.

Many of you longtime readers will remember last summer when I posted that I found my dream wedding dress. 

Well, then I got dress remorse. 

So went shopping again locally. I went with my Mom, two of my bridesmaids, and one of my maids of honor. (When you have two cousins that are more like your sisters, you get double the maids of honor!) 

...and I found a dress that (thought) I loved. It was full skirted and had lace. 

We have a family heirloom dress that is Italian lace. My Nauna (great-grandmother) had it made for my grandmother, and then both my mother and aunt wore it. Well they were super skinny and there was no way I was going to fit into it. But the lace is something important to me. It feels like something that connects me to the other women in my family. 

When I put this local dress on, it was logical. It was beautiful, it was everything that I wanted, but it wasn't emotional. I sorta kinda committed to that dress. Not in a financial way, but I told my parents and my bridesmaids that is what I was going with, 

but I never could bring myself to actually call and put the deposit on the dress to start the production. 

And honestly, I still can't. 

I feel like every time I try on a dress I'm screaming to myself...


but then I'm trying to appease every part of my sensibilities in one dress.

A huge part of me wants to have that "burst into tears, I can't live without this dress" moment, but then the other part of me is all "You won't cry over a dress, Ash. It just won't happen." 

Have any of you been through the same thing? I mean, so many of our readers have been through a wedding and I certainly can't be only one that is doubting their wedding dress choice. 

At this point I only have a couple options. I am going to try on some new dresses one more time from a new local shop that is opening, but after that I have to make a choice. It will either be a new dress from the new shop, or just settle on dress 2. Not that it is settling, because I do love the dress...but I'm not sure I'm in love with that dress. 

Oi. 

Ladies, dish the advice in the comments down below. I'll be checking in regularly and responding. As always, stay exceptionally chic & exquisitely geek! 




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4 comments:

  1. Have you thought about turning the lace into something else? For example, my mom lost her wedding dress, but was able to find her veil (which her mother, my grandmother, made by hand). I was able to augment the veil for my wedding and still feel as if I was participating in the female tradition of my family.

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    1. That's awesome! I talked to Mom about using some of the lace from the bag that they initially stored the dress in! She's "thinking" about it!!! <3 A2-D2

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  2. I never cried over my wedding dress, but I did find it to be exactly what I wanted for me and the big day and was pretty thrilled with it.

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    1. Danielle,

      You are giving my little heart hope!!!

      <3 A2-D2

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